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It’s time to fix Chinese whispers and to start spreading the truth about contraception.
To get the conversation started, we’ve put together these 8 simple facts that everyone should know. Share the memes and let the truth go viral.

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Sure, the word fellatio doesn't refer to some exotic insect. It’s simply another way of saying oral intercourse – a sexual act when the penis is stimulated with the mouth, lips and tongue. And with oral sex, there are as many myths in circulation! To make sure you and your partner have a good time, it’s best to talk openly about it before getting going and be certain there are no misunderstandings about the risks involved. First things first: It's not possible to get pregnant while giving oral pleasure, even when sperm is swallowed. But sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can be contracted whenever body fluids meet. If you’re unsure whether your partner is infected, always use a condom – even for oral sex.

Everybody loves gossip. But when it comes to sex and contraception, you need to get your facts right. If you have questions, be sure to ask the right people ‒ like doctors or other healthcare providers. They'll give you much more helpful and reliable information than all the myths out there. Many misunderstandings revolve around the IUD ‒ short for Intrauterine Device. This is a highly efficient, long-term contraceptive method which is placed inside the uterus by a well-trained healthcare provider. The small device contains a copper thread that prevents pregnancy. Although the IUD is not suitable for short-term contraception, it does not have a sterilizing effect. It is meant to be used for up to ten years but can be taken out at any time. Shortly after the IUD is removed, it’s possible to get pregnant again. Did your friend’s brother’s girlfriend’s hairdresser’s stepmother know that?

Generally, recycling's a great idea but when it comes to condoms, it definitely isn’t! No matter if you rinse them like a coffee cup, put them in the washing machine or turn them inside out, condoms cannot be used more than once. Their thin material simply isn't suitable for repeated use. Even if they still look ok, they might have tiny holes which sperm could pass through, enter the vagina and cause an unintended pregnancy or pass on sexually transmitted infections (STIs) including HIV. What's more, many condoms use spermicides for additional protection which is gone after first use. So to all the misers out there: Keep in mind that buying a new condom is a lot cheaper than caring for a kid or treating an infection!

Julius Caesar’s killing is history. Just like the myth that the withdrawal method, also called Coitus Interruptus, is a safe form of contraception. Pulling out just before an orgasm does not provide proper protection from either unintended pregnancy or from sexually transmitted infections (STIs). This is because so-called pre-ejaculate or pre-cum often contains sperm. Fact: 22 of all 100 women whose partners use withdrawal as contraception will become pregnant over a year. There are many other contraceptive methods which are a lot more reliable, so know your options and stay safe. And why stop when you’re having so much fun?

Enough with the nervous giggles every time someone says the word 'sex'! It’s part of everyday life and there’s no need to be embarrassed if you want to have an honest chat about it before getting it on. On the contrary: talking openly about contraception shows that you are mature, responsible and self-confident ‒ and that’s actually very sexy! Share your needs as well as your concerns with your partner. The best sex takes place when partners trust each other and have sorted out all the worries beforehand. Only then they can both relax and have a great time together ‒ and that’s what it’s all about.

Let’s get one thing straight guys: No matter how big or small it is, you can fit a condom on it. You can get them in lots of lengths, widths, shapes and materials, so make sure you find the right one for you or your partner before starting to have sex. That's because a condom that doesn't fit right is not just uncomfortable but also unsafe. If it’s too small, the condom will be difficult to put on, painful to use and more likely to burst. If it’s too big, it can easily slip off during sex. In either case the condom can no longer provide protection from pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections (STIs). No other contraceptive can protect you and your partner from STIs including HIV – so always double-check if you have the right rubber for the job. There's also something very sexy about a guy who knows his stuff – particularly in bed. With a little practice beforehand, you can avoid long, awkward pauses so you and your partner can get straight to the fun part!

There’s absolutely no need to keep your distance from people who are HIV positive. HIV (human immunodeficiency virus) is not transmitted through touching, hugging or kissing. The HIV in saliva or sweat is too weak to be passed on to anyone else and it cannot survive exposure to oxygen. Body fluids that do cause infection are blood, breast milk, vaginal fluid and semen as well as pre-ejaculate (pre-cum). That means unprotected sex involves a very high risk of infection. A condom is the only way to protect you and your partner from HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as chlamydia, gonorrhea or syphilis.

You won’t be a virgin much longer? Good for you! But do you want to become a parent right away? No matter if it’s your first or your twentieth time – if you don’t use contraception, pregnancy is always a big risk. The hymen is not some sort of safety door, but merely a thin membrane which surrounds or partially covers the external vaginal opening. Even if a girl hasn’t had her first period, she can already get pregnant. So to relax and enjoy your first time ever, be sure to use contraception – and do it right from the beginning!

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Get the conversation started

Our friends know what’s up. They always know the newest vlogs and best apps, and we can talk to them about anything. We’ve never found it awkward talking to them about contraception. Okay, okay, we know what you’re thinking. You’re smart, you’re savvy. You know what contraceptives are all about. The last thing you need is another boring lesson in sex-ed. So, read on…